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Do You Believe Your Own Hype?

Do You Believe Your Own Hype?

Do you believe what you are saying?

Do you believe in the value that you offer?

Do you believe that you can make a difference?

Do you believe that your target employer should hire you?

What was your honest, gut response to these questions? Was it a confident and resounding ‘yes’, a hesitant, ‘I think so’, or an anxious/resigned, ‘no’? First, know that wherever you are on this continuum is ok. The most important thing is to locate yourself on it and simply recognize it as your starting point. I recently wrote about the importance of the stories we tell ourselves during the job search, and how they can impact what we believe. I realize that in addition to the content of our beliefs, the strength of our beliefs can significantly influence how we move through the world and how we show up in both our personal and professional lives. The question, ‘Do you believe your own hype?’, is not about whether or not you have an over-inflated self-perception, it’s about how confident you are in your beliefs.

3 Reasons Why Curiosity is Your Key to Authentic Networking

3 Reasons Why Curiosity is Your Key to Authentic Networking

As is increasingly common these days, I met my wife through a dating app -- 'Coffee Meets Bagel', in case you were wondering. In my version of the story, which I’m confident she will back me up on, our relationship started because of my opening question once we connected (evidence below). Before reaching out, I carefully read her profile and came up with a question I sincerely wanted to know the answer to, and that I hoped would be of enough interest/value to her that it might spark a response. Two years and a heap of conversations later, we got married in February 2020. I guess you could say that my question was the catalyst for our connection -- but why...? Because it was borne of genuine curiosity.

How Context Can Make or Break Your Resume (Revised)

How Context Can Make or Break Your Resume (Revised)

“What you just told me sounds amazing! Why isn’t that in your resume?”

There is a major chasm between how job seekers relate their accomplishment stories verbally and what gets recorded in their resumes. I can't tell you how many times I've exclaimed the quote above after uncovering the bigger story behind an achievement while interviewing my clients. Something in their recounting routinely gets lost in translation from verbal to written storytelling, leading to resumes that undersell their accomplishments. Experience has taught me that the bridge between these radically different narratives often boils down to one key element -- context.

Why the Stories We Tell Ourselves Matter in the Job Search

Why the Stories We Tell Ourselves Matter in the Job Search

“If you don't believe you are worth it -- why would the person across the table?”

This was part of my comment on a great LinkedIn post shared by my friend and colleague, Nadia De Ala, CPCC, about salary negotiation, and it got me thinking more broadly about the stories we tell ourselves in the career space -- especially during the job search. By definition, job searching is rife with negative messages in the form of silence, outright rejections, & near-misses that progressively wear on our emotions and psyche. We have little control over the external narratives directed at us, but what happens when our internal narratives -- the stories we tell ourselves -- either are or become negative? Where do we go from there and how does that impact our process?

How to Work on Purpose - 3 Things to Consider

How to Work on Purpose - 3 Things to Consider

My wife is dope. Not just because I love her or that she’s an amazing clinical social worker & supervisor, but also because of how clear she is about her likes and dislikes both personally and professionally. There is a lot of power that comes when you can give clear and immediate “yes” or “no” responses in life regarding your preferences. During a recent conversation about some misgivings she has in her new role, she said something that really stuck with me, “I want to live on purpose.” In the context of her professional life, the dual meaning of that phrase became clear -- she wanted to work with: A) INTENTION and B) A DEFINED MISSION.

As we find ourselves in the midst of a global pandemic that has put life as we once knew it on an indefinite pause, now is perhaps the best possible time to evaluate for ourselves what it means for us as individuals to work on purpose.

Job Searching in the Time of Covid-19: 6 Tips

Job Searching in the Time of Covid-19: 6 Tips

In a matter of a few weeks, the entire world has been flipped upside down by Covid-19. Good news seems hard to find these days, but I hope this one fact brings you some comfort -- though your life may feel strange as you adjust to the temporary, “Covid-19 normal,” the rules of conducting a successful job search remain much the same. In fact, whether you are searching for a new job right now by choice or out of necessity, job searching in the time of Covid-19 may give you one distinct advantage -- extra time.

I don’t mean to overlook anyone’s need to find immediate employment as a result of sudden job loss, but I do wish to highlight that due to the current, all-consuming nature of the pandemic, many businesses are still trying to figure their way forward amidst constantly changing social and economic conditions. Given that employers’ attentions are divided, job seekers may have a bit more time to engage in the self-reflection, direction-finding, research, networking, and marketing necessary to land a job, than under normal circumstances.

Why Your Values Should Lead Your Job Search

Why Your Values Should Lead Your Job Search

I recently shared a post on LinkedIn that put forward 3 premises:

  1. Your personal life & career are not two separate things

  2. You are a whole person

  3. You don’t stop being a whole person when you are job searching

While these ideas might appear simple or even obvious, they merit stating because our modern socialization has caused us to lose sight of them. For better or worse, many professionals define their identity through their careers. Though I recognize that someone well placed in a career, doing what they love can derive a lot of satisfaction, I must push back from my holistic perspective to state that you are more than just your career. Life circumstances can change, market conditions, industry trends, your level of interest/passion, etc. -- when that happens, where does it leave the individual whose whole identity is inextricably linked to their career? Unfortunately, the answer for many is, lost.

One of the few guarantees in life and in work is that things will change. So, in the face of inevitable changes, you must be able to navigate life and career with something that stays relatively stable over time -- your values.

3 Ways to Empower Your Network to Help You Land a Job

3 Ways to Empower Your Network to Help You Land a Job

They say that “knowledge is power,” yet far too often, job seekers don’t provide their network with enough knowledge to enable their contacts to help them more effectively in their job search. At the most basic level, the more information we have as humans, the more we are empowered to act in an appropriate and timely manner. This rule applies to both our personal and professional lives. Six of the worst words you can hear either at home or at work are, “I wish you had told me...” -- add to that “sooner” or “more specifically.” Whenever those words have been spoken to me, I immediately felt a sense of regret around what could have been had I shared, more, specifically, or sooner. I don’t want you to feel that sense of regret when it comes to your job search, which is why I’m such a strong proponent of empowering your network → through detailed and timely information sharing.

Why It's Ok to Ask for Help in Your Job Search

Why It's Ok to Ask for Help in Your Job Search

Let’s begin by recognizing and validating that we all have differing relationships with the notion of asking for help. Depending on our personalities, gendered upbringings, family dynamics, and cultural context, we all develop varying levels of affinity toward seeking help when we need it. Some of us don’t hesitate for an instant to reach out when we encounter a challenge, while others only see it as a last resort. No matter where you fall on this continuum, for many, the idea of asking for help during a job search can be a matter fraught with tension and anxiety -- but it doesn’t have to be this way! Job searching is hard no matter who you are simply because so many factors are beyond our control. If you agree with this statement, then I would strongly encourage you to give yourself permission to ask for help during your job search when you need it.

During a recent discussion about networking strategy, my client had several questions about how to approach her contacts. She also expressed concerns about them being either unwilling or unable to help her. After a few instances of her sharing her hesitations about asking people for introductions or to pass her resume along, it became clear that the issue was less about their response and more about her internal apprehension about asking for help in the first place.

New Year. New Job. Here's How.

New Year. New Job. Here's How.

2020 feels big and it hasn’t even started yet. For many, the new year is often an inflection point at which they look for opportunities to advance their careers by landing a new job. The good news is that January and February are considered by experts to be the top months for hiring. A CNBC report shows up to a 30% increase in hiring in January. The bad news is that you are not the only person making the “new job in the new year” resolution, which means increased competition. So, how do you stand out in a crowded field? Start by laying your groundwork now while other job seekers are easing their foot off the gas for the holidays.

How to Land a New Job in the New Year

Identify Your Target Companies

When goal-setting, it’s often beneficial to start with the end in mind. In this case, having clearly identified your target companies can set the tone for your entire job search.