Career Advancement

How Culture Impacts Talking About Your Achievements

How Culture Impacts Talking About Your Achievements

“Don’t boast, it’s not the right thing to do.”

These are the words I often heard from my late mother during my childhood whenever she thought I was feeling myself just a little too much. The irony of her instruction was the fact that she, objectively, had a lot that she could boast about without anyone giving her the side-eye. My mother was the first woman to serve as the Director-General of the Ghana Broadcasting Corporation. She was also the first woman chosen to run as a Vice Presidential candidate in Ghana’s political history.

Despite being a woman of many firsts, she was incredibly humble both by nature and by nurture of the collectivist and humility-led Ghanaian cultural context she grew up in. You would never catch her bragging and she taught me accordingly. To this day I feel awkward in the face of praise and uncomfortable when discussing my own achievements.

Does this feel/sound familiar to you?

Speak Up, You Never Know Who is Listening

Speak Up, You Never Know Who is Listening

It’s been an interesting journey so far in my 18+ months of adventures and lessons as a new solopreneur. I am still yet to “arrive,” but looking back, I’ve made significant progress thanks to the community I’ve found and built on LinkedIn. One of the scariest things about joining, and more specifically, contributing to a digital, public conversation, is a fear of the unknown. This “unknown” relates both to peoples’ receptivity and response to what you or I share. This is a valid fear/anxiety that we can all trace back to the butterflies in our collective stomach when we raised our hands to participate in the classroom. On LinkedIn, similar to the classroom setting, everyone is listening, our participation matters, and also counts toward our grade.

Let me ask you a question... why did you join LinkedIn?

Was your goal simply to create a profile just to say that you have one, or were there some higher aspirational purposes for the time and effort you expended? I’ll bet that you had goals of (re)connecting with friends/professionals you already knew, meeting new people to expand your network, and furthering your professional development, including finding new jobs. The challenge is, it’s very hard to achieve any of these goals if you remain a silent observer or passive member in this digital, public, professional square.

Why You Need Your Own Advisory Board for Career Development

Why You Need Your Own Advisory Board for Career Development

I have a memory from when I was about 8 or 9 years old of being taught how to throw a football for distance by an older kid in my neighborhood. One summer in the small park in front of my apartment, this kid spent 20-30 minutes patiently showing me the arm motion, release point, and trajectory I needed to execute in order to throw the ball further than I could beforehand. I don’t share this story because I went to become a division 1 college quarterback, but because it’s one of my earliest memories of receiving helpful, informal external guidance that tangibly helped me improve an area of my life.

I honestly can’t recall if I ever saw that kid again after that day, but he had a lasting impact on me. I’ll bet you can remember at least one person like that in your life who, in their brief cameo in your story, made a dramatic difference in your thought, action, direction, or development. What if we could hold onto such people, or better yet, intentionally seek them out to add to our network so they become recurring, readily accessible characters, rather than single episode guests? This can and should be an intentional process for any professional as they network build professional relationships & friendships…

How to Trust Your Own Voice in Your Career Narrative

How to Trust Your Own Voice in Your Career Narrative

Whose voices are in your head when it comes to your career narrative and what are they saying?

Depending on our experiences to date, the composition of these voices can range from largely negative to mostly positive. Where we find ourselves along this continuum can be heavily influenced by our identities and intersections. Our identities, especially those that are visible, can play a strong role in influencing the nature of the messages we receive about ourselves both in life and work. For those of us holding one or more marginalized identities with regard to gender, race, LGBTQ status, or having a disability, the voices we have heard may have trended toward the negative.

In the career setting, these negative messages can infiltrate, influence, or even impede your own voice when it comes to telling your career story to advance or land a new role. These voices are the manifestation of systemic racism, sexism, homophobia, ableism, and more, that are ingrained in the corporate world.

This looks like my client who is an accomplished black professional with ~30 years in her field worrying about formal and informal performance feedback she’d received years ago impacting her ability to find a new job today -- in a new industry…

It’s Not Self-Promotion, It’s About Gaining Visibility

It’s Not Self-Promotion, It’s About Gaining Visibility

We all know that friend/acquaintance on social media who seems to be in 24/7 self-promotion mode. Every post or tweet broadcasts their latest achievement, exotic trip, or new purchase. Whether you love, hate, or tolerate what they're doing, they have achieved one main thing -- they have your attention and you know what they’re up to. When it comes to the professional setting, like it or not, similar rules apply. Those who have mastered the art of self-promotion are typically the ones who get ahead faster than those of us who, by nature and/or nurture, are less inclined or even disincentivized to bring attention to our success (POC & women) or even just our simple presence.

Unfortunately, hard work alone is not enough to earn promotion. The critical ingredient that those of us who try to “just keep our heads down and work” are missing, is visibility. If you consider the definition, ‘visibility’ works in two ways:

3 Reasons Why Curiosity is Your Key to Authentic Networking

3 Reasons Why Curiosity is Your Key to Authentic Networking

As is increasingly common these days, I met my wife through a dating app -- 'Coffee Meets Bagel', in case you were wondering. In my version of the story, which I’m confident she will back me up on, our relationship started because of my opening question once we connected (evidence below). Before reaching out, I carefully read her profile and came up with a question I sincerely wanted to know the answer to, and that I hoped would be of enough interest/value to her that it might spark a response. Two years and a heap of conversations later, we got married in February 2020. I guess you could say that my question was the catalyst for our connection -- but why...? Because it was borne of genuine curiosity.

How to Work on Purpose - 3 Things to Consider

How to Work on Purpose - 3 Things to Consider

My wife is dope. Not just because I love her or that she’s an amazing clinical social worker & supervisor, but also because of how clear she is about her likes and dislikes both personally and professionally. There is a lot of power that comes when you can give clear and immediate “yes” or “no” responses in life regarding your preferences. During a recent conversation about some misgivings she has in her new role, she said something that really stuck with me, “I want to live on purpose.” In the context of her professional life, the dual meaning of that phrase became clear -- she wanted to work with: A) INTENTION and B) A DEFINED MISSION.

As we find ourselves in the midst of a global pandemic that has put life as we once knew it on an indefinite pause, now is perhaps the best possible time to evaluate for ourselves what it means for us as individuals to work on purpose.

Why Your Values Should Lead Your Job Search

Why Your Values Should Lead Your Job Search

I recently shared a post on LinkedIn that put forward 3 premises:

  1. Your personal life & career are not two separate things

  2. You are a whole person

  3. You don’t stop being a whole person when you are job searching

While these ideas might appear simple or even obvious, they merit stating because our modern socialization has caused us to lose sight of them. For better or worse, many professionals define their identity through their careers. Though I recognize that someone well placed in a career, doing what they love can derive a lot of satisfaction, I must push back from my holistic perspective to state that you are more than just your career. Life circumstances can change, market conditions, industry trends, your level of interest/passion, etc. -- when that happens, where does it leave the individual whose whole identity is inextricably linked to their career? Unfortunately, the answer for many is, lost.

One of the few guarantees in life and in work is that things will change. So, in the face of inevitable changes, you must be able to navigate life and career with something that stays relatively stable over time -- your values.

3 Ways to Empower Your Network to Help You Land a Job

3 Ways to Empower Your Network to Help You Land a Job

They say that “knowledge is power,” yet far too often, job seekers don’t provide their network with enough knowledge to enable their contacts to help them more effectively in their job search. At the most basic level, the more information we have as humans, the more we are empowered to act in an appropriate and timely manner. This rule applies to both our personal and professional lives. Six of the worst words you can hear either at home or at work are, “I wish you had told me...” -- add to that “sooner” or “more specifically.” Whenever those words have been spoken to me, I immediately felt a sense of regret around what could have been had I shared, more, specifically, or sooner. I don’t want you to feel that sense of regret when it comes to your job search, which is why I’m such a strong proponent of empowering your network → through detailed and timely information sharing.

New Year. New Job. Here's How.

New Year. New Job. Here's How.

2020 feels big and it hasn’t even started yet. For many, the new year is often an inflection point at which they look for opportunities to advance their careers by landing a new job. The good news is that January and February are considered by experts to be the top months for hiring. A CNBC report shows up to a 30% increase in hiring in January. The bad news is that you are not the only person making the “new job in the new year” resolution, which means increased competition. So, how do you stand out in a crowded field? Start by laying your groundwork now while other job seekers are easing their foot off the gas for the holidays.

How to Land a New Job in the New Year

Identify Your Target Companies

When goal-setting, it’s often beneficial to start with the end in mind. In this case, having clearly identified your target companies can set the tone for your entire job search.